Life Lessons

I miss you, but I don’t know if I want you back.

It’s hard to pinpoint when I lost the old me – the woman who fell in love with abandonment, the eternal optimist who believed everything would work out and the hopeless romantic I once was. Yes, I still see flashes of that person, but not nearly often enough. Like many, life has hardened me, and I’ve become jaded.

But there are times I miss the old me, silly but innocent. Sometimes I just want to press reset, but life doesn’t come with a remote or buttons. Sometimes I want back the foolishly impulsive me, her heart was pure and free from hurt.

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When the clock strikes midnight…

Yes, it’s that time of year again, when the clock strikes midnight, we sit there thinking about all the things we said we’d do in 2021 but never did.

But unlike every year that has passed, this year I’ve resolved not to make any resolutions. Yes, I still want to look like Gal Gadot, drink less, move more and find Mr Right, but instead of resolutions I’m going to make myself promises.

Promises that start with a cleanse. A cleanse that is as good for our soul as it is our physical being.

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He never hit me, yet he hurt me every day.

Let’s be honest we’ve all been there. We thought we’d met someone warm, caring and. understanding. Someone we could see a future with, but slowly started seeing flashes of behaviour that didn’t quite fit with the person we thought they were. So, we brushed it off, thinking we were imagining it. Before we knew it, we were celebrating our one-year anniversary. Yes, we’re still together but those flashes have now become a way of life.

Congratulations you’re officially in a toxic relationship, and you know your abuser well.

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Tis the season to be silly. Fa la la la la.

It’s fast approaching that time of year when we throw caution to the wind and party like it 1999. But we also know tis also the season of morning after regrets.

We’ve all been there. One minute you’re that classy woman; a picture of elegance and decorum – a flute of bubbles in one hand and nibbles in the other, charmingly working the room. But as the evening progresses you turn into the fun, uninhibited version of you. Now, you’ve had one too many glasses of bubbles, your decision-making skills are a little hazy, all etiquette straight out the window.

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His ex is no threat to you. You’re the real threat.

There are two types of people in this world. Those that can stay friends with their exes and those that need a clean slate and choose to walk away. I am firmly in the first camp.

There are many reasons our relationships fail; me I like to cut my losses and walk away if I don’t feel like it’s going anywhere. That is no reflection on my ex and doesn’t make him a bad person. It just means I didn’t feel they were right for me as a life partner, but they were great people, so we were just better as friends.

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I’m a strong woman because I was raised by one.

“You hate when people see you cry because you want to be that strong girl. But then you hate how nobody sees how broken and torn you are.” Farah Asif Khan.

I was lucky, I was raised by one of the strongest women I will ever be blessed to know – my grandmother. Widowed young, mother of four, grandmother to ten (well fourteen, but that’s another story), who she raised with grace, ease, and pride.

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F.E.A.R. Face Everything & Run or Face Everything & Rise.

“Denying fear never fixes it, accepting it turns it into fuel”. Uncertainty Experts

Growing up, I was the eldest of six. Failure was never an option and talking about your emotions not the norm. Who knew this would not only stay with me throughout my career but affect every other aspect of my life?

What I quickly learnt was denying your fears doesn’t solve anything, it only holds you back.

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The most painful goodbyes are felt in our hearts before our ears hear the words.

“I knew I had to leave, I was tired of feeling empty and forcing sleep to escape the pain of feeling unloved and unworthy. I was giving too much of myself and not receiving enough. I was depriving myself of happiness and not smiling enough. I was floating along with feelings but had to jump off with pride. Moving on for the better, ready for something better.” Tene Edwards, Walk with Wings.

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Hello younger self, it’s good to see you again. Why don’t we have a little chat?

“Failure is fantastic, because you meet yourself and get to know your limitations. This is how I express myself, and I can’t do it any other way.” Billy Childish.

I often ask myself if I could have a do over what would I change? The simple answer is very little. Because my journey, the twists and turns I took made me the woman I am today. And let me tell you, she’s pretty awesome.

Having said that if I ever met my younger self, these are the things I’d want her to know.

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I miss you, but I don’t know if I want you back.

When the clock strikes midnight…

He never hit me, yet he hurt me every day.

Tis the season to be silly. Fa la la la la.

His ex is no threat to you. You’re the real threat.

I’m a strong woman because I was raised by one.

F.E.A.R. Face Everything & Run or Face Everything & Rise.

The most painful goodbyes are felt in our hearts before our ears hear the words.

Hello younger self, it’s good to see you again. Why don’t we have a little chat?

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