It takes between 18 and 254 days to break a habit, crazy right? But what can we do, we’re creatures of habit, repeating our actions, thoughts, and even emotions until they form a rhythm, a beat we dance to every day without a second thought. But what happens when that rhythm starts to suffocate us? Can we ever break free from the habits that define us or are we doomed to repeat them, over and over in some twisted version of groundhog day?
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Few things are lonelier than not being seen. That sinking feeling when you’re standing in a room full of people, yet you might as well be invisible. It’s a silent scream, a desire for attention, and recognition from the ones we love.
There’s a true art to being seen without explicitly asking for it, where we dance between self-worth, love, and visibility.
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In the hustle and bustle of life, we often find ourselves caught up in the narratives we’ve inherited or the stories we’ve fallen into. But only a few will stop, hit pause, grab a pen, and rewrite their life story. Fear of the unknown often paralyses us, but as Gandhi famously said we must be the change we want to see and unless we’re brave enough to travel to an unfamiliar place, we’ll never be able to reframe our minds and change the course of our lives.
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“Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you.” Annie Lamott
Care… A simple and universally understood word, once upon a time associated with looking after others. Now widely recognised by both men and woman about something we should do for ourselves. In today’s fast-paced world, we’ve become so caught up in the chaos …
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“It’s ok to have bad days, to put yourself first, to feel less than perfect, to want to feel more like you again.” Unknown
We all have those days when we think, could this day get any worse? And I’m not talking about the kind of bad day where you’re rushing out the door, trip and spill your coffee all over your pristine, white dress. F**k me it’s not even 9 a.m. Could this day get any worse?
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Our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.
‘Know thyself’ arguably one of the oldest profound truths, which the Greeks inscribed on the temple of Delphi. But it seems that something seemingly easy still confuses us. Why you ask? Well, there are many reasons we never really truly know ourselves and therefore never completely belong to ourselves.
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Show me a woman that hasn’t been cheated on, abused in some manner or taken advantage of and I’ll show you a liar.
As women we carry around a lot of baggage that some of us fail to shed when we move from one relationship to another, because we simply don’t deal with what went wrong. Much easier to bury our heads in the sand.
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There are two ways of spreading light; To be the candle or the mirror that reflects it.
Have you ever come across someone whose sheer presence brings calm? You don’t know them but there’s just something about them. You feel like it’s all going to be ok and you are so lucky to have met them, it changes your very being.
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When we’re younger we strive to become this perfect version of ourselves, seeing our flaws as something we need to work on.
It’s taken me the best part of fifty years to accept who I am, embracing my imperfections.
Because being flawesome is not just making peace with your flaws; it’s knowing that without them, you would not be you.
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” If you ever want to know the truth about something, just ask a woman over 40. When a woman turns 40, her very last f *ck flies right out of the window.”
The older I get, the less I care about what people think of me. Therefore, the older I get, the more enjoy my life. It’s really quite liberating not to give an actual f**k what others think.
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Always trust your gut. Your brain can be fooled, and your heart is an idiot (sometimes), but your gut doesn’t know how to lie.
There are few times in life I’ve been wrong about a person, but the times I have are when I’ve ignored what my gut was telling me… you know, that niggling feeling in the pit of your stomach that you can’t quite identify, so you choose to ignore it.
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Feels like a strange thing to say, because it makes it seem like everything that happens to us is somehow our own fault. So let me be clear what I’m not saying is we reap what we sow.
Tolerance however is a strange notion, so familiar yet so alien. We go through our whole lives tolerating things it just becomes the norm. So much so that we stop seeing it as something we tolerate & just accept it as a way of life.
But we must be careful what we tolerate as we’re teaching people how to treat us.
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Yes, it’s that time of year again, when the clock strikes midnight, we sit there thinking about all the things we said we’d do in 2021 but never did.
But unlike every year that has passed, this year I’ve resolved not to make any resolutions. Yes, I still want to look like Gal Gadot, drink less, move more and find Mr Right, but instead of resolutions I’m going to make myself promises.
Promises that start with a cleanse. A cleanse that is as good for our soul as it is our physical being.
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In the words of an inspirational author, Ana Claudia Antunes.
“Teach your inner demons to roam your mind without damaging your thoughts”
It’s ok to feel sad. There I said it.
This does not make you weak, a manic depressive or someone who is unable to deal with life. No. It just makes you human. The sooner we accept this the better it will be for all of us.
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