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Be with the one you love or the one that loves you?

‘Be with a man who loves you more than you love them’. A common piece of advice given in early adult life. At the time I thought this was the most ludicrous thing I’d ever heard; I mean who in their right mind would want to be with someone they didn’t love as much as the other loved them? Looking back however, I now understand exactly what it means.

We’ve all been there… In a relationship with someone who we know doesn’t tick all our boxes or get our pulse racing, but we stay, for longer than we intended, feeling unfulfilled.

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His ex is no threat to you. You’re the real threat.

There are two types of people in this world. Those that can stay friends with their exes and those that need a clean slate and choose to walk away. I am firmly in the first camp.

There are many reasons our relationships fail; me I like to cut my losses and walk away if I don’t feel like it’s going anywhere. That is no reflection on my ex and doesn’t make him a bad person. It just means I didn’t feel they were right for me as a life partner, but they were great people, so we were just better as friends.

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There are no bad dates, only great brunch stories.

What is the point of bad dates if not to have amusing anecdotes to share with your friends? Gabrielle Zevin.

The other day I was talking to a guy I was once seeing, my Mr Falls Too Fast, about his dating experiences pre and post me. Our conversation sounded something similar to the Top Trumps of dating experiences.

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The most painful goodbyes are felt in our hearts before our ears hear the words.

“I knew I had to leave, I was tired of feeling empty and forcing sleep to escape the pain of feeling unloved and unworthy. I was giving too much of myself and not receiving enough. I was depriving myself of happiness and not smiling enough. I was floating along with feelings but had to jump off with pride. Moving on for the better, ready for something better.” Tene Edwards, Walk with Wings.

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Dear Mr Right, whoever & wherever you are, I know you’ll come when it’s right.

“People say you don’t exist. Yes, I agree no one is perfect but people can be right with all their imperfections and flaws, can’t they? So, you must know that I do believe in you. I do believe somewhere out there you do exist”. Ankita Singhal

Some may say I am a commitment-phobe. Me, I like to think of myself as more of a ‘won’t settle for anything less than she wants’ kinda girl and until I find Mr Right I’ll just carry on with life, trying the relationships on for size.

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It’s not you, it’s me. Where have I heard that before?

“If you push me away, I promise you, you won’t find me where you left me. My heart’s big, but not big enough to deal with people who decide to love me when it’s convenient. The Modern Break Up.

Let’s imagine a very common scenario. Boy meets girl, there’s an instant attraction, you’re getting along really well, you have a great connection, you talk long into the night about anything & everything, get each other’s sense of humour & then out of the blue you hear those familiar words.

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