In the hustle and bustle of life, we often find ourselves caught up in the narratives we’ve inherited or the stories we’ve fallen into. But only a few will stop, hit pause, grab a pen, and rewrite their life story. Fear of the unknown often paralyses us, but as Gandhi famously said we must be the change we want to see and unless we’re brave enough to travel to an unfamiliar place, we’ll never be able to reframe our minds and change the course of our lives.
read more“Establish your deal breakers and don’t ever allow people pleasing to let you compromise your core values.” Maryam Hasnaa.
Everyone has different deal breakers, but there are some universal ones we shouldn’t ignore.
In this wild urban jungle where love is both the feast and the famine, I’m sat here asking myself, have I been pursuing this whole romance thing all wrong?
read moreAaaah love, that one thing we’re all searching for, even when we tell ourselves we’re not. That inexplicable thing that makes us crazy things and keeps us coming back for more. It all starts with lust, the first thing we see is their physical beauty, their smile, their eyes, maybe their physique. It’s not until our hearts and minds kick in, do we see the person for who they really are. But what good are eyes if our hearts and minds can’t see clearly?
read more“My mother once told me – When you hold a man’s hand and he makes your heart beat faster, making you feel all giddy and excited, walk away. He’s not the man for you. If you hold a man’s hand and he makes you feel warm, safe, and secure – hold onto him. This is the man you should marry.” I hear these voices in my head, telling me time and time again to walk away. Yet here I am looking at myself standing still, unable to move.
read moreBreaking up is never easy. The end of a romantic relationship can leave us feeling hurt, betrayed, and lost, especially if one of you wasn’t ready for it to end. If you are currently going through this, I know it will be hard to believe but you can turn that pain into something beautiful. If you are thinking about staying friends with an ex (I don’t advise it with every single one) here’s a few things to think about…
read more“When a woman says, ‘I have nothing to wear’ what she actually means is, there is nothing here for who I am supposed to be today.” Caitlin Moran. As I’m sitting here with my writer’s hat on (one of many that I wear throughout the day), I’m plagued by thoughts of the numerous roles the modern-day woman plays. All the while trying to be the best versions of ourselves. Me… Daughter, sister, aunt, friend, coach, writer, cook, provider and finally me.
read more“Love is an untamed force. When we try to control it, it destroys us. When we try to imprison it, it enslaves us. When we try to understand it, it leaves us feeling lost and confused.” Paulo Coehlo While channel flicking, I recently came across a programme, exploring the beauty of Polygamy. The Monogamist in me watched on, mortified at these couples’ swapping partners without a care in the world. I should have
read more“Being alone does not mean you are lonely, and being lonely does not mean you are alone.” Unknown
As someone who has spent many nights alone, I know the feeling of loneliness all too well. But with time I’ve also come to understand that being alone doesn’t automatically equate to being lonely. In fact, there are times when I love nothing more than spending time with myself.
read more“I think you knew the first time you touched me, where this would end. I think you have always understood that the destiny of glass is to break.” Blake Auden
Growing up, I was surrounded by fairy tales and romcoms painting the perfect love story – boy meets girl, they fall in love, and live happily ever after. I still love of romcoms, but I’ve accepted reality seldom lives up to the fairy tale.
read moreFlirt: When you fall for someone’s words.
Lust: When you fall for someone’s beauty
Love: When you fall for someone’s soul.
Over the last decade, the dating landscape has changed. How we meet people, how we navigate the first date, how we move from casual dating to a committed relationship. With it we have a long set of rules women are using. separating the players from serious contenders.
read more“Some people don’t love you; they don’t even care about you. They just want to stay connected to you. They love the benefits. So, they do the minimal. A little phone call here and there, just checking on you. What they are really doing is maintaining the connection, so when they need / want you, they still have a way in.”
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read more“Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you.” Annie Lamott
Care… A simple and universally understood word, once upon a time associated with looking after others. Now widely recognised by both men and woman about something we should do for ourselves. In today’s fast-paced world, we’ve become so caught up in the chaos …
read more“Everybody knows the pressure of a first date: Searching for that perfect outfit. Hunting for ways to be engaging. Dissecting each detail when it’s over to check for mistakes. Dating can make even the most confident person lose their cool.” Kelly Starling
If they handed out awards for going on the most first dates, I reckon I’d be in with a fighting chance of winning.
read more“By trying to please everybody, nice guys often end up pleasing nobody – including themselves.” Robert A Glover
When I was younger, I was always attracted to a bad boy, there was just something about him that I couldn’t resist. That fantastic swagger, the way he dressed, the cockiness it was all too much, I just couldn’t say no. I’d like to say that I’ve changed, but that’s not 100% true.
read more“It’s ok to have bad days, to put yourself first, to feel less than perfect, to want to feel more like you again.” Unknown
We all have those days when we think, could this day get any worse? And I’m not talking about the kind of bad day where you’re rushing out the door, trip and spill your coffee all over your pristine, white dress. F**k me it’s not even 9 a.m. Could this day get any worse?
read moreIn the words of the very wise Maya Angelou “When someone shows you are they are, believe them the first time’.
Men are straightforward creatures. If they want something badly enough, they’ll be sure to let you know. Women on the other hand hold on for dear life to the smallest glimmer of hope, which is inherently why we get played. We let things slide …
read more“I am lost to a thought buried in my bones. I am cursed with the idea that I am not enough.” Blake Auden.
When I first read this quote, it struck a chord, deep down in the place I like to bury all my demons and I can’t seem to shake it. Something he said keeps plaguing me. “Of all the curses I’m destined to carry, the simple idea that I’m not enough continues to be the heaviest’.
read moreOur sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.
‘Know thyself’ arguably one of the oldest profound truths, which the Greeks inscribed on the temple of Delphi. But it seems that something seemingly easy still confuses us. Why you ask? Well, there are many reasons we never really truly know ourselves and therefore never completely belong to ourselves.
read moreIn this day and age of swiping, have we lost the potential to have our own beautiful, epic love story? What will we tell our children?
Well mummy was bored one day, and she thought she’d scroll through Hinge. Your dad caught her eye and she messaged ‘hi, nice smile’, they got talking, met for drinks, but daddy was also seeing 8 other women until he decided mummy was the one for him.
read more“You are not a man until you give your love, truly & freely to a child. And you are not a good man until you earn the love, truly & freely, of a child in return.” Gregory David Roberts
It’s hard to understand love if you’ve never experienced it, and I’m not just talking about the love between two adults in a committed relationship, No, I’m talking about the kind of love that teaches you what real love is.
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