From Queen to Savage in the blink of an eye.
“I didn’t lose you. You lost me. You’ll search for me inside of everyone you’re with and I won’t be found.”
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Show me a woman that hasn’t been cheated on, abused in some manner or taken advantage of and I’ll show you a liar. As women we carry a lot of baggage. Some of us fail to shed this baggage when we move from one relationship to another, because we just don’t deal with what went wrong. Much easier to bury our heads in the sand.
Tell me this, how many times have you sat patiently in the waiting room, hoping that the man in front of you will realise what is sitting in front of him and pledge his undying love for you? a lot right. Yet you never seem to learn. You just replace one mistake with another. At some point you really have to break the cycle.
But here’s the problem, you’ve invested so much in this man, the thought of starting over fills you with dread. So instead, you hang in there, hoping he and the relationship will change. But they never do. If by now he hasn’t realised what you mean to him, he never will. And by holding on all you are doing is wasting even more time. A bad investment is just a bad investment. Cut your losses and walk away.
As one of my very favourite motivational speakers once said, ‘never make a man have to tell you twice, he doesn’t want you’ and he didn’t mean verbally. Always pay attention to what they’re not saying. Anyone can tell you what you want to hear, it’s called lip service. But a person’s real intentions will always manifest through their actions. Focus on that and you can’t go wrong..
Yeah I know, everything was great at the start; You couldn’t keep your hands off one another; You talk long into the night; They can do no wrong, because although there may be red flags you tend to wave them away. But we all know it’s those red flags that will come back and bite you once the rose tinted glasses come off. Pay attention at the beginning, it will save you from a lot heartache in the long run.
If you have to ask a man ‘so where is this going? What are we?’ Chances are ‘it’s going nowhere ’. Men by their very nature are hunters and will go after what they want.
– If he wants to get you into bed, he will pursue you until he gets you into it.
– If he wants you to be his girlfriend, he’ll make every effort to show you why he’ll be a great partner.
– If he wants you as his wife, you can bet your bottom dollar he’ll get down on one knee and ask you.
So, if he’s not making the effort, do yourself a favour and walk away. He may see you as Mrs Right Now, but you are definitely not his Mrs Right.
You could argue that the timing isn’t right. You know what? Sometimes timing is a bitch. You could have great chemistry. You could tick all his boxes, but he still may not be in the right space to have a relationship with you. It might just not be his priority right now, so you’re back to square one. do you wait around, hoping that one day soon the timing will be right? What a beautifully romantic notion – unrequited love that finds you when the time is right, because it was meant to be. Only that hardly ever happens, if you are lucky enough to be the one person that this happens to, I honestly am so happy for you, but for the majority this is so far from reality.
I know you’re scared, it can get lonely on your own. But I promise you, once you get over the fear, standing in front of you will be a woman who knows who she is. A woman that understands that there is someone out there who will look at her like he is the luckiest man on this planet to have you be his side. You’ll never have to convince him that he won’t find anyone better, it’s unspoken, for he is ready, as are you. There will be no waiting room in sight.
All I ask is you…
DON’T WAIT FOR HIM TO CHOOSE YOU.
If he hasn’t chosen you by now, it’s unlikely he’s ever going to choose you. But why wait for him to make that decision? Take the decision away from him and make your own choice. He should know if he doesn’t choose you, he’ll lose you. It’s really that simple. Have the strength and courage to walk away from something that doesn’t serve your purpose.
DON’T HANG AROUND FOR HIM TO SEE YOUR WORTH.
The unfortunate truth? He’s so wrapped up in himself he can’t see what’s in front of him. He’s so blinded by his own self worth, he fails to see the value another brings into his life. Come on ladies, how is someone like that worth your time? Know your worth.
DON’T WAIT FOR HIM TO CHANGE. He will never change. I know you don’t want to hear this but people can only treat you the way you let them. And you’ve let him treat you like this so he’ll continue. There may be times he treated you the way you wanted. You glimpsed the man you think he can be, but your relationship is in the here and now. stop living in the future. He is, who he is. now, date his reality not his potential.
DON’T WAIT FOR HIM TO REALISE HE MADE A MISTAKE.
Stop putting your life on hold for him. He let you go because you were not what he wanted. Maybe down the line he’ll realise what a grave mistake it was to let someone as amazing as you go. But by then it will be too late. Because someone who can see straight, will have already made you understand why it was never meant to work out with him. Now you’re on the right path to the right man.
DON’T WAIT FOR HIM.
He’s just not worth it. Sorry.
To any of you gents who like to leave a woman in the waiting room, know this. It takes a lot for a woman to walk away from a man she adores and decides to commit her heart to. However, once she does, she’ll never look back. Never put a woman in a position that’s going to make her show you how cold her heart can get. She can go from Queen to Savage, in a split second, she won’t even think twice. And when she does, she’s gone. You pushed her to the point of no return and in the blink of an eye, you’ve lost her. Her love is strong, but not strong enough to wait for you to love her when it’s convenient for you.
